OK, so one of the most common characteristics of Single Boomers is we are either dating again after divorce or the death of a spouse. Certainly, as a group there is usually a need to Prepare the Wall with Divorce Support or Grief Support work in the Grief Recovery® Seminar first before Painting the House in Dating Again.
Once the Surface is Prepared, it is great to start painting your house: Get Out on More Dates.
Indeed, studies show time and again that the majority of married people met their spouse via people they knew in common. Through friends, through common associations, through mutual acquaintances.
So, what is the number one behavior which will then increase your chances of meeting your new love?
MEET MORE NEW PEOPLE
It will depend on the nature of your metro area for how easy it is to do that and what sort of events happen regularly which you can attend.
You want to combine a mix of events which are sort of a group association – like a Salsa or Classical Dance group which meets regularly – with one off events which you attend only periodically.
ASSOCIATIONS and GROUPS
This is your community, your tribe. You want to attend these regularly, just don’t let it be your only resource. These associations and groups – dance groups, singles groups, Bible Study/Church groups – can often become a bit insular. Sometimes new people attend their events. Sometimes only the same people have been attending for months.
Do attend such events, just not exclusively.
SPECIAL OCCASION EVENTS
Often a Special Occasion is observed by a series of public events. They are really sort of one off. St. Patrick’s Day. Gay/Lesbian Pride cocktails parties. Art Gallery openings. Scotch Tastings. Pinot Noir Tastings. Memorial Day BBQs.
Happy Dating and Relationships!
April Braswell
