Baby Boomer Dating Success – Dating Again After Divorce or Death of a Spouse

OK, so one of the most common characteristics of Single Boomers is we are either dating again after divorce or the death of a spouse. Certainly, as a group there is usually a need to Prepare the Wall with Divorce Support or Grief Support work in the Grief Recovery® Seminar first before Painting the House in Dating Again.

Once the Surface is Prepared, it is great to start painting your house: Get Out on More Dates.

Indeed, studies show time and again that the majority of married people met their spouse via people they knew in common. Through friends, through common associations, through mutual acquaintances.

So, what is the number one behavior which will then increase your chances of meeting your new love?

MEET MORE NEW PEOPLE

It will depend on the nature of your metro area for how easy it is to do that and what sort of events happen regularly which you can attend.

You want to combine a mix of events which are sort of a group association – like a Salsa or Classical Dance group which meets regularly – with one off events which you attend only periodically.

ASSOCIATIONS and GROUPS

This is your community, your tribe. You want to attend these regularly, just don’t let it be your only resource. These associations and groups – dance groups, singles groups, Bible Study/Church groups – can often become a bit insular. Sometimes new people attend their events. Sometimes only the same people have been attending for months.

Do attend such events, just not exclusively.

SPECIAL OCCASION EVENTS

Often a Special Occasion is observed by a series of public events. They are really sort of one off. St. Patrick’s Day. Gay/Lesbian Pride cocktails parties. Art Gallery openings. Scotch Tastings. Pinot Noir Tastings. Memorial Day BBQs.

Happy Dating and Relationships!

April Braswell

Boomer Dating Expert

Dating Success Tips for Single Boomers: DO Expand Your Social Circle While Traveling

Awhile when I was blogging at my main blog I suggest to single boomers in particular that they needed to make concerted efforts to expand their social circles. Well, as we used to say when I was in Sales at Oracle, “I eat my own dog food.” Namely I am walking the walk and actually DOing what I suggest. Because as a baby boomer widow, I am right in there with you and your dating experience.

So, here I am in Southern California in The OC for the Memorial Day Weekend. I am visiting with family, which getting the 5 of us together is rare, the 6 of together all at once takes an act of God (Wedding or a Funeral). So, to me, our group altogether time is very precious and I guard it like some parents guard their time with their children (totally understandable).

However, while I travel, I do look to see if there are people with whom I can deepen the relationship with some face time (I feel so 80s when I say that, but it even more a relevant term in the 21st c with all the Social Media relationships we have.). I have 2 women from college and a lady from an internet class I am taking. The latter is the one I am most hoping and putting the steps in place that we will meet.

And you’re laughing wondering what that has to do with dating.

Well, two things.

It is the HABIT I form. Make the effort all the time as my NORMAL mode of operandi.

And… women are more likely to fix singles up than men are. Additionally, I am in the greater REGION of where I now live, more so than when I lived in Northern California. So if I actually met someone around here and we clicked, well, then we could actually reasonably date and form a relationship. NorCal to SoCal is a lot further than the OC is to Vegas.

Here is an area which I visit, mmm, like once a month or so on average. So, it is worth my sowing seed here for expanding my social circle and dating sphere to here as well.

One couple, it was the man who came from Central CA to the SF Bay Area regularly. He kept his eyes open when he traveled and pursued a lady in San Francisco. They married 2 years ago and just had their first child together last Summer. … Just so you know this DOES work and produce the results which you want.

In the mean time…

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Baby Boomer Dating Expert